The variety of sex toys is surprising. Sex toys vary from purely male or purely female sex toys to toys that can be used by both sexes. There are also some sex toys that can also be classified as sex aids or marital aids.
The Purpose Of Sex Toys
Some sex toys aid the man's erection, stimulate the female genitals to become more sensitive or provide a different feel to 'normal' sex. Other sex toys provide an 'environment' for variations in sex, for example so called orgy bed sheets. Sometimes they are used to help a person who has difficulty with unaided sex to achieve sexual satisfaction. However most sex toys provide a new way to directly stimulate the male or female genitals to achieve sexual satisfaction.
Using sex toys can provide new experiences and variation in the sexual experience. It can also provide a fantasy element for enhancing or revitalising a relationship.
The usual expectation is that a sex toy provides direct stimulation of the genitals in foreplay and/or during sexual intercourse or as a means to obtain orgasm through only the stimulation provided by the sex toy.
Types of Sex Toys
Vibrating Sex Toys
Probably the most well known sex toys are 'vibrators' which, as the name suggests, provide stimulation of the genitals using vibration. They are mainly used to stimulate the clitoris, but may also be used to stimulate any other part of the female body or that of a man's.
The simplest of these are pencil or wand shaped (though normally thicker than a pencil). They often have an internal battery (or two) which powers a small electric motor. Sometimes the battery pack and controller are external and connected to the vibrator by a wire. This motor is fitted with a small, out of balance, weight attached to the shaft. As this weight rotates it throws the motor and vibrator into a small circular movement which causes the vibration you feel.
With a vibrator that has a controller, as the power is increased the speed of the motor increases and with it both the rate and strength of vibration. Both the strength and rate of vibration effects how stimulating you find the sex toy. The best effect may not be as strong and as fast as possible. The optimum settings may well change as your degree of excitement builds. To get the best results it is worth buying a vibrator which is controllable.
Different vibrators will have different characteristics and you may well find you prefer one combination much more than another and your preference may even vary depending on which part of your body you are stimulating.
More recently electronic vibrator controllers have appeared which provide not only the static control of power/speed but also allow you to select patterns of power pulses and surges. These can be very effective.
There are also other vibrating sex toys such as butterfly stimulators and vibrating penis rings.
Other Powered Sex Toys
There are some sex toys that use other ways to provide mechanical stimulation. These usually depend on a motor that makes the sex toy continually change its shape which provides a sort of rotational movement or makes it move back and forth. The back and forth movements are sometimes powered by an air pump rather than a motor. The movements have been used to create, for example, mechanical licking tongues, vibrators that 'penetrate' the vagina and mouth simulators to give a man a 'blow job'.
On a bigger scale and much more expensive, there are 'sex machines' that incorporate thrusting and vibrating dildos.
Combination Sex Toys
So far we have covered vibrating, moving and thrusting sex toys. As you may have guessed these are all offered in a bewildering array of combinations.
A common combination in many 'Rabbit Style' vibrators is clitoral stimulation using vibrations and vaginal stimulation using movement and sometimes a thrusting motion as well.
Many sex toys add varying textures to their surfaces; a dildo or vibrator may have ridges or soft spikes or a rippled shape.
Sensation Change Sex Toys
Some sex toys rather than provide vibrating or moving stimulation, change the feel of sex.
For instance there are a variety of sleeves to put over the penis to provide different sensations for both partners while engaged in penetrative sex.
There are rings that squeeze the base of the penis and/or tighten the scrotum that assist the man's erection and also changes his sensations. There are penis extenders and thickeners which may give a man's partner greater sensations during penetration.
There are a wide variety of lubricants that can significantly change the feel of sex.
There are PVC and Polyurethane bed sheets that are water and oil proof that can be used for slippery or messy sex.
Why Use A Sex Toy?
A good question is: why do people use a sex toy? Surely fingers, tongues, penises, clitorises and vaginas etc all provide great sexual stimulation and enjoyment.
Well, apart from therapeutic uses (eg erection assistance), sex toys can drive the imagination (being taken by a machine), provide variety (new ways to do old things), vary the stimulating effects in otherwise normal sex (penis sleeves) and some can provide experiences not possible with 'normal body parts' (particularly vibrating sex toys and electro-stimulation).
Where To Start
If you have not tried a sex toy before and don't yet have an idea of what you might like, try one of the simpler vibrators first. Most probably you will enjoy the experience and then start to wonder what other delights can be found with more sophisticated vibrators and other sex toys ...
If you then find you do enjoy sex toys try out a few others and find what suits you. Above all, have fun trying them out!
Therapists are openly suggesting sex toys to couples seeking advice on getting the spark back and at the rate that sexual enhancement products are flying off the shelf, it would seem there is a great need for third party help so-to-speak.
Conservative relationships find it hard to incorporate outside help regarding their sex lives. Although there is nothing wrong with this point of view, it might just be the reason why the divorce rate is 50% in America. Instead of viewing a sex toy as an aid they ultimately see it as competition. Nevertheless, there are millions of couples who have found the pleasure of getting a little kinky, not to mention sparking a fire they may have lost along the way.
The best part of using toys is the fact that they don't get tired. If the man has problems maintaining an erection he can use a toy to keep on satisfying his partner, taking great pressure off his shoulders. Another instance is when he or she doesn't feel up to it then there is no need to build up unnecessary frustration which typically leads to fights. The toys allow very pleasant solo sessions and there is nothing wrong with exploring one's sexuality.
If nothing else it might help some couples to overcome their shyness. Taking that first step like buying something erotic have ways of bringing out the animal inside certain people. It would be narrow minded not to consider a decent sex toy if only to see what happens. There aren't any obligations to keep using kinky equipment if it doesn't feel right; however people tend to react quite fondly when they find the right ones.
Few things can help a relationship to the extent that it can affect the overall health for all the people involved. Never be scared to explore.
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In partnership with YouGov, The Huffington Post recently conducted a poll of 906 American adults to answer the question: How do people really feel about sex parties and open relationships? After the much-hyped stateside expansion of U.K.-based sex club Killing Kittens (and HuffPo's recent coverage of Brooklyn's Chemistry sex party), media attention towards the subject is, well, peaking. But, both sex parties and non-monogamous relationships in general still attract only a slim minority of people.
Of those surveyed, 86% had never been in an open relationship; 3% were in one at the time of the survey (March 17-18, 2015), while 10% had been in one in the past and 2% declined to answer. The majority (72%) of those surveyed wouldn't even consider being in an open relationship, while 14% would and 13% weren't sure.
Meanwhile, 9% of respondents had attended a sex party, while 89% had not and 2% didn't answer (hm, wonder if they were the same 2% who skipped the previous two questions of this anonymous survey). Only a slim margin of those who hadn't attended a sex party would be willing to, with a total of 13% of respondents open to the idea. Three quarters of respondents gave a firm "no" to the prospect, 12% weren't sure, and 1% dodged the question.
So, if non-monogamy (and/or events at which people engage in sex with multiple strangers) isn't your speed, you're not alone. You do you. But, if sex parties are calling to you, don't shy away from trying one out.
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Cock rings can be regarded as little helpers for the men. As the name suggests, it comes in the form of a ring typically made from rubber or chromed steel. It is placed around the base of the penis in addition to the scrotum, but don't put it on while the penis is erect. The purpose of the cock ring is to maintain an erection by controlling blood flow. It allows blood to flow into the penis through the arteries and restricts the veins that let it flows back.
Some elements to consider before buying one involve size. It's not a condom situation where one size can fit quite a few guys. If the ring is too small then it will restrict too much blood, resulting in a very painful erection. A size too big won't have any effect. However, there are some cock rings that are adjustable although they are a little more expensive. The latter cock rings are also available in leather.
The world of sex toys just won't be the same without butt plugs. It's really growing in popularity for both sexes and it was specifically designed to provide stimulation for the rectal area. The original form can be compared to a dildo, but there are some significant differences. On one end it's a flat, circular shape. From the middle a thin shaft extends which gradually becomes thicker until it forms a bubble. From the bubble the shaft gradually gets thinner.
A butt plug isn't for everyone because it will heavily depend on comfort. When plugged in it will stimulate the nerve clusters inside the rectum that typically sends messages to the brain when the need for a toilet arises. It's a matter of controlling this stimulation. In other words, during sex it can greatly enhance the experience, but it can also make it very uncomfortable for people who can't control the stimulation. A decent butt plug will also reach the prostate area, resulting in very nice sensations. It's definitely a sex toy that falls into the "discovery" section and can either make or break a sexual experience.
Dildos are the replicas of the classic vibrator, however, it doesn't vibrate and it's made from different materials. There is nothing scientific about a dildo and its purpose is as straightforward as can be. Generally made from latex or silicone, the sizes range from very small to painfully big. There is no lack of creativity in the dildo market, because they embody every color you can imagine and any possible shape. Some of them include the scrotum area. No power is needed and they can even fit into a purse.
Silicone dildos are the preferred material, but they are a little more expensive. Users all agree that the texture and temperature combines comfortably with natural lady parts. Apart from choosing a favorite color and shape, the only thing that should really be considered is the size. It's recommended to start small and work towards limitations, because buying a giant dildo won't really provide as much pleasure as it will pain. Lube is optional, seeing as dildos are typically soft and smooth.
It all comes down to personal taste and making some hard decisions. For newbies it will be like walking into a candy store filled with tasty dreams, so don't be afraid to ask questions and be sure about what is being bought. Not everything in a sex toy store will be appropriate for the ideas you have, but when the mind is open then sex toys won't disappoint. Whether you just want to increase stimulation in different areas or simply want to enhance familiar regions, the sex toy world is your oyster.
Dating sites have become a very popular trend since the internet started connecting people. This also means that online dating options have significantly increased over the years. Initially they were very experimental, but as they evolved they became more focused towards taste. Now it’s possible to find specific people in specific places, making the process a lot quicker and a lot more effective.
The Benefits of Online Dating
Before getting into all the online dating options at your disposal, let’s look at why more people are choosing to take the virtual route. For starters, it saves time. Even though technology has made life simpler, everything else has to catch up in terms of speed. This means people don’t really have time to find the perfect date anymore. Now instead of spending hours hoping to find someone with the same interests, an online dating site provides all the information you need. Searching through profiles that are tailored according to the characteristics you like really speeds things up.
The other benefits extend to those who don’t have the confidence to walk up to strangers and start talking to them. With an online dating site the risk of being humiliated is pretty much non-existent. There are no boundaries when it comes to distance, so if your soul-mate is living 500 miles away you can still get to meet them.
Online Dating Options
Now that we know why online dating sites are so popular, let’s explore all the colorful options you have. There are literally no limits. If you are looking for a blonde girl, 5.5 foot tall with blue eyes who likes the outdoors then there is a site for you. You can even find a site that will match dwarfs with average sized people. There are so many “taste based” sites that you will have a difficult time NOT finding one that fits you. Whether you like farmers, rich bachelors or guys who don’t shave their body hair, you will be able to find your perfect match.
Finding Quality Sites
The downside of all these sites is that some aren’t legitimate and some require you to become a member before you discover that it’s not the site for you. Scouring through them all can you leave you hopeless in the end. Luckily there are directories that make the task very simple. A good directory will provide in-depth reviews from existing members. In turn you can make an informed decision before you give up your personal details. A directory such as www.datingsites.ie is the perfect place to start, seeing as it covers all the favorite categories in addition to ratings as given by all the different users. The best part is that you’ll save a lot of time not having to search through all the sites hoping you will find one worth participating in.
Adult Dating Sites
The most popular 'adult' themed websites in Ireland boasting the largest memberships are adultfriendfinder and Alt.com
Both aimed exclusively at adults looking to hook up for sexual encounters. With adultfriendfinder being the more mainstream of the two and Alt.com somewhat more fetish and as the name suggests 'alternitive' sexual hook up site.
Step into the world of online dating the smart way and find out why so many people enjoy it. Once you get the right platform there is no stopping the romance in your life. The great thing about modern life is the huge amount of options that are made available to us, now make the most of those options.